What you pay attention to grows.

A very simplified view on people, maybe. But you can likely relate. Are you one of the idea people, project people, or worker bees?

We need all of these people to get ideas off the ground. Sometimes we’re even playing all the roles. In my honest opinion, to have a collective sense of joy, ease, and flow (with you, your clients, your people), having people in the right roles aligned with their strengths is key.

Sure, you can get your ideas into the world on your own. No doubt you’re used to doing it. You might have had ideas that were so good and exciting that carrying the project and worker bee responsibilities didn’t even feel that bad.

It's 2022.

Doing what I do for the ravenous, fiery, Mars-like desire to become, acquire, achieve, experience — whether for social or spiritual ascension — is the shortest end of the stick I can pick up. I’m intimately familiar with this way of doing things and how rarely fulfilling it is, if at all.

I know firsthand how this approach makes it almost impossible to feel grounded and like I have a grip on things.

abundance

abundance

The truth is, I always knew enough and had the tools to live the way I wanted but so much of what I believed was tethered to what other people believed. People who cared about me, people who loved me.

Because I didn't know any better, when they projected their doubts, fears, and whatever limiting beliefs they had about themselves (or me), I believed them. They were older or more this or more that than me.

no rush

no rush

I’m a big believer in reflection, journaling, setting goals and all that, but I cannot get behind the sense of urgency around having all this stuff on lock already, or even being ready to dig into them right now.

For one, reflection is an ongoing process. Having goals set and a word of the year in place already is not a sign that anyone is more together than you. Not having them in place “yet” is a sign that you’re human, surviving a pandemic and doing the best that you can.

purpose

I’ve been so fucking fed up and also felt so paralyzed by the next step. I’ve been heartbroken, shedding perhaps more tears than in 2014 when my grandpa, mom and grandma all died.

In relationship with all this heaviness, I’ve carried so much good and my ancestors carried so much more to help me arrive here to this moment. None of it has been by accident.

I believe strongly that I have come this far for a reason and have a responsibility to keep moving forward into the fullest expression of who 👏🏽 I 👏🏽 am 👏🏽.

Every single day is another chance to get that much closer. The same is true for you.

Taking Time & Asking the Questions

Taking Time & Asking the Questions

I fundamentally stand for taking time to be alone. And, I am unapologetic about my desire for luxurious getaways. I worked my ass off in the service industry (restaurants, hotels and catering) and developed a strong gift for anticipating and meeting the needs of others, and I am all for doing what I need to get mine met.

I previously broke down how to take time in a way that really maximizes the experience of getting away to think, breathe and plan. Here are a few of the key questions I ask myself in advance and while on my getaways.

#radicalcompassion

Last night I replied to friend’s post of their local night out with, “Please, please, please be safe.” Love wrapped in judgement.

I’m certain their post was coming from a place of love and support for our local community and service-based industries being hit hard by what’s happening.

Fuck me very much.

We are all doing our best, trying to make the best decisions we can with the information we have.

Reflection

Reflection

What’s clear to me is that I want to do less in order to do more.

I’m not interested in jamming my calendar with meetings and clients and fun activities. In fact, I’d like less meetings and clients so I can be my fullest, most present and rested self for those I have.

I want more meaningful and therefore fewer get togethers with the people I love and and am getting to know. This will allow me to be fully present.

I want to create deeply meaningful and connected client partnerships where together we are advancing ideas that positively impact our lives and the lives of the communities we serve.

Patience

Patience

A friend recently posted on Facebook a question about cultivating patience. It really resonated with me because I tend to want things to happen right away.

When I really reflect on how I practice patience, it turns out I’m growing in my abilities (thankfully!). I think patience, like meditation, non-judgement, compassion and all the other things that make us better humans, are works in forever progress. They’re practices — things we do over and over with the intention of becoming incrementally better each time.